A few weeks ago I was taking a walk with my daughter and she kept stopping to look at every little thing. "This plant smells like pineapple", "look, an ant!" and "look at that tree". I did the whole 'who cares' routine but then after some thought decided that was not the best way to go.
"Which plant smells like pineapple?" I asked her, and she showed me. I didn't think it did, but being outside in the summer stuffs me up thanks to being allergic to most plants in my area. She made sure to tell me all about how last summer on her wilderness trip they found some and she learned all about it, and you can make tea from it that tastes like chamomile (and surprisingly not like pineapple).
When I was younger I was facinated by the smallest things. Heck, even now I am. I'd run water and play in it, feeling how the flow was changed as I moved my hand. Or when driving down the freeway, I'd stuck put my arm and feel the airflow, flying my hand up and down with the current. I don't want her to miss out on these things, I want her to learn as much as she can about everything she is interested in.
Recently I saw a video about girls and science.
Better give that drill to your brother cause he's a boy and you're just a girl. WTF?
This video made me think of my daughter, and how I don't do the things in the video but really wonder if others do. I mean, does a mom really tell her daughter that her "project" has gotten out of control" when all she is doing is handing planets from her ceiling? Is she bothering mom with her project? Doesn't seem like it. Is she being creative and expanding her horizons? Seems like maybe, yes.
Dad tells her not to mess with that starfish. I'd probably say the same thing but I would add "because it's a living thing and you don't want to hurt it." Check it out, be careful, and put it back. Why would dad tell her not to mess with it?
Or what about the mabe 7 year; mom put her in that dress with those golashes and then says not to get the dress dirty? That seem's crazy to me. Golashes go with an expectation of getting dirty, why wouldn't mom put her in a dress that can get dirty?
I don't get it. I let my daughter play around and stuff, and even when I was annoyed with her yammering on about plants and trees I still decided I should let her tell me what she is excited about. Do parents usually not do this? Do parents still tell their kids not to do things that are fun and harmless? Tell them not to do things that might cause a little annoyance or extra work for Mom and Dad?
Well that sucks.
I don't know if I am drifting farther and farther away from the world each day or if it's the world that is moving away from me. Things like this commercial confuse and irritate me! First off, it shouldn't be needed to be made in the first place, and second off that it's needed to be made in the first place!
And then I wonder if it would be the same with boys. Do we really still live in a world full of gender stereotypes that won't allow a parent to treat their son the same as their daughter? That's crazy too!
It doesn't matter if your child has a penis or a vagina, they are your child and are capable of doing anything that they want. You are there to protect them and teach them, and if they turn out to be illiterate assholes then it's your own fault. Be a good parent and help your child become all they can be.
I want to go more into the gender thing because I saw another video about doing things "like a girl" that peaked my interest, but I would just rag on it and wonder why such videos are needed.
Treat ALL humans the same, like humans. Black or white, male or female, ugly or pretty, fat or skinny, mutant or non mutant: we are all humans and we need to look out for one another and help eachother though this thing we call a life.
I still won't listen to my daughter when she goes on and on about an anime. Fuck that. It's stupid. I don't care and she needs to go watch something I'M interested in!