A co-worker of mine was telling me about some guys she had been going out with. They were all from a website, Plenty of Fish, and she had some great stories about them. Don't get me wrong, they were good stories, nothing bad, mostly just people she had met and how she was enjoying herself with the company.
So I got on said website. I filled out my profile and gave my information and was soon contacted by a woman.
I need to stop here for a moment. I have a 14 yo daughter and I met her mom nearly 20 years ago online. I have not dated at all since my daughter has come to live with me, and I have only recently been convinced that I should be dating. I have talked to my daughter about this and SHE even tells me I should be dating and to not worry about her.
So I met a woman online. Then I met another. Then I met another. This website was a bit overwhelming. I sent some texts and ignored a few, and I have met a few very interesting women. Met them online that is. I have yet to meet one of these women in person.
I don't think that is a problem, as far as who they are goes. I think I am savvy enough to know if I am being catfished. The problem is what do you do when one of them stands up above the rest and that she is the one you really want to meet and maybe more with. You don't want to hurt feelings, but you don't want to just ignore others.
So, yeah, I met a woman who I really like. We have yet to meet, though I hope it is soon, and she could be some guy trying to steal my identity, but I don't think so. We traded facebook links and everything, and she seem slike the real deal.
So I guess I go and meet her and if it works out I tell the others no thanks. It seems mean, but I suppose that's what dating websites do. How many people chat and decide who they are talking to isn't who they want? Probably many.
I don't like that but what alternative is there? You have to put yourself out there and rejection may happen. Heck, when I do meet this woman she may decide I am not up to her standards, and then I will feel like shit. It happens but it's true.
I don't think it will happen, she's seen me and I've seen her and we really hit it off.
Still, I worry about such things. Is my apartment not up to her standards? Am I too big for her to like? Does my 14 yo daughter scare her (like she scares me)? Will my attachment to Weird Al Yankovic songs be a deal breaker? You don't have to like Walking Dead or Doctor Who but you better let me and my daughter watch every new episode of each show!
I hate to say my co-worker is a liar, she did know it was going to snow the other day, but I wonder how good this website really is. I guess I will have to wait and see.
Sally forth! I will post an update as things progress.